Leading with Connection, Not Conflict.
As an expert guide for educators and care professionals, I provide the tools to build high-impact relationships that create safer, more supportive environments for everyone.
Tired of the Daily Battles? Use neuroscience and emotional intelligence to turn conflict into connection and build brighter futures, together.
It's easy to feel stuck in a cycle of misunderstanding and frustration - whether in the classroom, at the dinner table or in the boardroom. You're in a sticky spot, but you've also found the tools needed to get out: the desire for a better connection at home, in school and at work.
That's where we come in.
We don't just talk about "emotional intelligence"; we show you what it looks like in action.
Imagine calmly navigating an emotional hijacking or a child’s meltdown because you understand the neuroscience behind it. Picture a workplace where leaders feel equipped to support neurodivergent colleagues, turning challenges into strengths.
We guide you on that journey from chaos to clarity. Using practical, trauma-informed tools, we help you build the strong, supportive relationships that lead to brighter futures.
Building a world where everyone feels understood.
For Children
We help children build skills in emotional intelligence, self-awareness and healthy communication. Our trauma-informed approach makes sure every child feels safe, understood and valued, including those who are neurodivergent.
For Care Professionals
Health and care professionals can strengthen their work through a trauma-informed framework that avoids re-traumatisation, builds trust and supports recovery.
We provide resources to help integrate coaching psychology into daily practice.
For Parents
Parents receive support in understanding their child’s needs, building strong human relationships, and using simple strategies from coaching psychology to encourage growth, resilience and trust at home.
For Leaders
Leaders in schools, health services and organisations can use emotional intelligence and coaching psychology to build stronger teams, improve communication and create inclusive, safe environments that support both staff and service users.
For Educators
Teachers and schools can apply trauma-informed practices and emotional intelligence training to create classrooms where all children, including neurodivergent learners, feel included and able to succeed.
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Whether you are a child, parent, educator, care professional or leader, our work is here to support you.
“Life doesn’t make any sense without interdependence. We need each other, and the sooner we learn that, the better for us all.”
The Human Relationships (HR)- ologist.
We use developmental psychology, neuroscience and neuroplasticity to drive our coaching model that helps you better understand your brain, improve executive functionality and emotional regulation, using trauma informed approaches where needed.
Our Mission:
We believe that understanding our brains and emotions strengthens our communication, emotional connection and personal growth, helping you to navigate life’s challenges with confidence
Building Confidence and Self-Esteem
Enhancing Executive Function
Coaching matched to your specific needs
Understanding Unique Wonderful You
We believe every person has unique gifts with the ability to make a difference in the world.
By understanding and supporting core emotional strength and building on belief systems, we meet people where they are and build core from the inside out and the outside in.
Nurturing and educating to empower and enable stepping fully into themselves with strength and ownership.
Our method is unique, and we operate under our trademarked methodology.
We use a variety of psychological coaching techniques designed to support the whole person.
This is not a program that ends once it’s completed. We provide the tools for lifelong use, so each person using our techniques can return to their toolkit time and again.
How we use our five step approach…
Can you relate to any of these statements?
“I feel like I’m always struggling and my brain is always on.”
“I make plans at the start of thee week and every day, but by noon, I’m mostly in reaction mode after that.”
“I feel like I am putting out fires.”
“Everyone’s busy, but we’re not making progress or making any impact.”
“I just can’t seem to get to the bits that matter.”
“I feel so guilty, I hardly see my family, and when I am with them, my mind is elsewhere. My kids are growing up so fast, and I’m missing out!”
“There’s just so much to do.”
“I haven’t taken a real, unplugged holiday in years.”
“Being human and having compassion with a deep understanding of emotional intelligence to help each other, is not ‘fluffy’; it supports connections, your relationships and positive impacts on our world.”
— Naomi Withers, Chief HRologist.
Stress and Burnout
Pressures from society, family and working lives are causing stress and burnout. 1 in 5 workers (21%) needed to take time off work due to poor mental health caused by pressure or stress at work in the past year.
Low morale, often referred to as disengagement, can cost an estimated cost of £23.6 billion annually due to lost productivity, higher turnover, and negative impacts on customer service, because we aren’t maintaining the level of care needed for us to make sense of change at a reasonable pace.
Communication breakdowns
When we experience stress and pressure, our brain triggers fight, flight, freeze or fawn. A reaction to the rise in cortisol and its impact on communication and our ability to emotionally regulate.
This is costing up to £2.7 billion annually, with certain areas potentially losing up to £13 billion due to communication breakdowns between parties - this comes back to stress and pressure causing relationship breakdowns.
Replacing people relationships
Conflict and change can cause anxiety, people are not part of the throw-away society we have become accustomed to, and it’s costing a fortune in mental health care.
Based on the average UK salary, replacing someone at work can cost between £11,200 and £74,900.
Replacing high-level or specialist employees can be significantly more expensive and up to 2.5 times the annual salary.
I believe there is a need to make a systemic change that makes SENSE through CARE at PACE to create a better future for us personally and professionally.
Through raising emotional intelligence and creating spaces which are accessible and inclusive for us all, in an autonomous design of connection and trust at home, in school, through the care system and at work.’
Naomi Withers
Chief HRologist
Parents/Carers, Educators, Leaders struggling with people?
You’re frustrated - I get it!
Resilience is low,
Trying to keep everyone happy seems impossible.
Everyone is stressed, overwhelmed, and having emotional outbursts.
You’re all so tired, overwhelmed and disconnected from our relationships with ourselves and others, that is causing connections to suffer, communication breakdowns, disconnect, loss of trust.
You're tired of trying to solve this alone.
We’ve got you.
Imagine how it would be if:
Your family and teams communicated effectively.
We help bring a holistic solution to help achieve relationship goals.
Through our methodology, we work with you to help you deeply learn each other’s perceptions and communication styles, creating a solid foundation for trust and collaboration.
Through our one-to-one coaching sessions, we use evidence-based psychology, which will help each person continually embed the learning.
What’s the result?
You will see results with a 20% increase in connection, trust and loyalty, meaning if you are a leader of a team, you can pour 20% of your salary bill back into your business.
If you are a parent/carer, transitions and friction will see a minimum of 20% impact within your family dynamics:
See a reduction in conflict
See improved communication
Build resilience,
Build trust
Build psychological safety
As an experienced Human Relationships Professional, Coach and Accredited Psychologist, Parent to five and a home educator.
I can help spot the human disconnects and turn them, into a happy harmonious relationships that ripple from parent to child, child to parent, parent to educator, educator to leader and caring profession to educator, parent, child and then leader to team, to professional services to support our human relationships to thive in the future of complexity
Is this sounding like it could work for you? Click here for a 15-20 minute free call, to see if it’s for you
Expected Results
Improved relationships: Constant bickering and arguments? Our support helps us understand each other's perspectives and build stronger relationships in families, in education and care settings and in organisations.
Improved communication: Communication will develop into clarity through emotional intelligence. This leads to reduced misunderstandings and being able to communicate our feelings.
Lowered stress and burnout: We are facing a time where everyone seems to be feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. from young people, to educators, social workers and leadership teams.
We will help you create a harmonious environment, challenge the work-life balance norms and develop trust and psychological safety.
Is Our Method Right For You?
This is for you if...
You're open to new approaches to long-standing problems.
You are committed to creating positive relationships and connections.
You believe that supporting each other has a ripple effect.
This is NOT for you if...
You're looking for a quick fix or a one-size-fits-all solution.
You're not willing to invest the time and effort into human connection and relationships thought emotional intelligence.
You believe emotions have no place for unravelling.
Our method is :
An investment that will pay dividends in connecting, listening, and building trust for the future.
A personalised experience designed for your unique needs, we help you transform your relationships from flappy to happy.
We will support you to rebuild resilience and emotional connection
The question is, are you ready to get cracking?
Ready to give it a whirl, Shirl?